“Anger is never without a reason, but seldom with a good
one." - Benjamin Franklin
Being yelled at is never a pleasant experience. When someone
raises their voice at you, it is normal to feel frightened. I have heard people
say that they get angry on someone they love. Does that mean anger is
synonymous to love? Or is it the other side of love? I believe none of them.
People are angry when they aren’t at peace with themselves and try to dump
their frustrations on someone who cares for them because that is the easiest
resort for such people. When you love
someone, you accept them for what/ who they are and not put any terms and
conditions, you talk softly, you try to put across your point in a low tone;
shouting should be a ‘BIG NO NO’. Anger
immediately creates distance between two individuals. It creates a vacuum in
the heart of someone who is on the receiving side. Yelling/ shouting at someone
you love induces fear in their mind since the brain reads yelling as ‘DANGER’.
People need to deal with their anger management issues themselves rather than
finding an easy way to pour it on someone and spoiling their mental peace. One
should never accept the gift of verbal abuse; the gift should belong to the
giver. It’s not always true that couples, who fight the most, love each other the
most. So all the people who say “anger” is a way of expressing love, kindly
choose better ways. Be human and treat someone the way you want others to treat
you!
